Category Archives: Thoughts to Ponder

Dec12

It’s Okay To Cry Sometimes

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***This post was written on December 12th, after a pretty disappointing day – but until today (December 14th) it has been kept private. It has been private because it’s pretty personal, and I just kept feeling like it wasn’t the time to post it. With respect to the school shooting this morning in Connecticut (see today’s blog post) – I am publishing this post below as public. The sentiments ring that much more true to me right now. It’s okay to cry.****
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It’s okay to have tears. It’s okay when they flow. God created our emotions, and they are not bad. Today, in fact, I had a really hard day. Truth be told, it’s really just a continuation of this ongoing saga of what all is going on in my body. I get to my awaited appointment, just to be told “we’re really sorry, but we need to reschedule your appointment.” Um, are you KIDDING me? With tears in my eyes, I just couldn’t believe it. Evidently the hospital here didn’t get the records to the place I was having my appointment – who, in turn, couldn’t continue with my appointment without them. So, another week. My appointment today was rescheduled for next week. And so this continues to be the appointment that will go on forever.

As I sat there at what should have been my appointment, I couldn’t convince the tears not to be present. As I thought more about it, I felt silly for the tears. Then, and ever-present truth was revealed to me. God created our emotions. He created the very tears we cry. I could write an entire series of blog posts on the various times tears and God’s response to them occurs in the Bible.

I’d like to take this one step further and encourage anyone taking the time to read. No matter what the day brings, no matter what you are facing, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to say that it’s not fair. It’s okay to not understand. And most importantly, it’s okay to not always be okay. There may be something in your life that you just cannot figure how you will get beyond. You may question if you’ll ever be able to pick up the pieces and move on. I’m here as living proof (not just as it relates to my current health issues) that life DOES go on. Sometimes, it will become necessary to take life one day at a time – sometimes even moment by moment. Even still, just know that it’s okay to have emotions. Tears aren’t always particularly fun, but they are necessary for healing sometimes.

Even if it’s just momentary, smile – knowing that your tears won’t last forever, and that it’s okay to cry sometimes.

Dec9

Bearing One Another’s Burdens

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Bearing one another’s burdens…I’d like to dive right into this topic – right after a bit of background and catching up we have to do.

The past few days have been exhausting – both mentally as well as physically. I had a doctor’s appointment this past Thursday that was much less than fun. To recap, I left the doctor’s office with the necessity to have a tetanus shot, another referral to see cardiologist, and surgery scheduled for three weeks from then.

The tetanus shot was because a crafting (cutting) tool rolled right off of my desk, and into my leg. Since there was a puncture wound, the doctor thought it prudent.

The referral to cardiology is to see if they can rule out my heart as cause for some other medical concerns they cannot pinpoint the cause of.

The surgery scheduled is to remove a lump/mass from my back (and possibly one from my stomach) and then sending to pathology to determine what it’s made of. We are, of course, praying it is not cancerous, and nothing else to be concerned with.

I’m also semi-looking forward to the appointment with the breast surgeon to hopefully have answers on that front. All this waiting without having answers is bothering me.

I would like to stress something though. I do not fear a diagnosis, even of cancer. No, I do not WANT one – but nor do I live in fear of it. The absolute truth is that I serve a God larger than life, and He knows exactly how to take care of me – regardless of the outcome. It is His peace and strength that continues to sustain me. Even when there are days I feel like losing hope, I know that He is holding me. The God that holds this entire universe also holds me in the palm of His hand. What a loving and safe place to be!

What has truly made a difference, especially recently, is people. The people that God has in my life have really made a huge difference. As I keep saying, God created us to be community people. We all need other people, myself included. We are not meant to walk through life alone. Not me, and not you. This past week though, God has truly shown His love in such a real way through the compassion and love from friends. As I was discussing everything that is unraveling in my life of recent history, I remarked at how much I’m learning to reach out and connect with people. The reflective response made me think. “Imagine if this had all been going on a year ago, think of how different it would be” and that was so right. I was at a relatively dark place at times, and I cannot say how it would be different – other than really not good.

Another instance of God in action through the heart of friends was to hear a friend’s reaction to my most recent doctor’s appointment. A few days after having explained the situation, we were talking. Not sounding particularly chipper, I asked how the week had gone, or what was going on. The compassion that they probably didn’t even realize they spoke with really illuminated God’s love for me in a real way. It was shared that there was just a lot on their mind, a week full of life unfolding before their eyes, and that they also were struggling with me on the news and/or possibilities of these current medical concerns. At first, it made me sad because I had (especially without intending to) made another person upset or sad themselves. Not my goal. However, as I thought on it, I was appreciative that God has people in my life that are walking through life, and through this situation with me. I truly am NOT alone. This person and particular situation isn’t isolated. There are other people carrying this with me, and I am grateful. I don’t want them to have to, but blessed that they are.

Yesterday, in fact, I was out eating lunch with my children. As I stood up to leave, I was light headed, and spoke with my son about it briefly. Another couple who was nearby heard, and asked if I was alright. Complete strangers. They asked if it was a medical condition. I explained briefly that it was, but I’d been seen by doctors, so far with no answer to explain why this happens. I knew it would be over within minutes, so wasn’t worried too much. What happened next was a phenomenal display of God’s love in human form. The man asked my name. Not sure where this was going, I told him my first name. His response was that they would pray for me tomorrow when their small group Bible study meets before church. It didn’t stop there. They asked if there was anything else, and I felt a strange peace in sharing (very briefly) what’s going on with regards to the unknowns with me medically right now. With compassion they said they would pray, and would continue. They would pray for peace that only God can give. After we spoke, I asked where they went to church, said thank you, and we went on about our day. I was, however, blessed by such a small thing. No, it wasn’t earth-shattering. It was two complete strangers following the heart of God in a little way that made a huge difference.

There have been many people I have reached out to, and who have reached back to me – in prayer and friendship. I could tell you story after story about the people who God has used to bless me in small and large ways. God is faithful – 100% of the time.

The title of this blog post is what I set out to write about here — how, as Christians, we are called (Galations 6:2) to bear/carry one another’s burdens. This passage of scripture may not be directly speaking of carrying situations such as my own, but God used it to speak directly to my heart, to show His love in a real way through the body of Christ, and through such a variety of friends who care. I strive to be that person that people lean on when times are happy, and when times are tough. I’m not, however, used to being that person needing the same.

The entire point I am trying to point out through this entire post is that God loves us with a crazy love. It doesn’t always make sense, but it is real. He calls us to walk through life together. Just as I am finding how not alone I am, you are also not alone. No matter what situation you are facing, you are not alone. You are loved. The God who holds the universe has you safely in His hands. Trust Him with your life, and don’t be shocked when He acts on your behalf – when He shows you love in ways generally unfamiliar. He is a God of love, and a God who cares about even the most minute detail of your life. Allow God to be God, and watch how He takes care of you!!

Dec5

The Little Things – Hope Is Real!!

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The little things is a campaign my church (Skyline) is practicing it’s motto of loving God, loving others and making a difference. As a church, we are striving to reach out within this community and beyond to make a lasting impact. It acts on the premise that little things and big things alike can make a lifetime of difference. Sometimes, a person might just need a momentary reminder that someone cares – that they aren’t alone in this world – and that even a stranger would care enough to share kindness. Our pastor has encouraged creativity with this, and wants to see love spreading like wildfire. It is with this fire and passion that we will see a difference and watch life change happen.

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Today I did not actually intentionally set out to do anything in particular with The Little Things. As has become my custom, however, I carried plenty with me everywhere I went – just in case the need arose. As I was driving to pick up dinner, I felt a huge urge to pull into a place I already go from time to time. I didn’t think of it on my own, of that I’m now convinced. I drove up, and quickly became aware of my purpose there this evening.

To rewind a little bit, earlier this afternoon I put on a shirt that reads: Hope is Real (from the organization To Write Love On Her Arms AKA TWLOHA). This organization, and the message of hope they share is beautiful. I felt like today was a day, if only via a printed t-shirt, to share hope with the world.

Fast forward back to this evening. After I paid for my items, I felt led to pay a small amount towards someone else’s next transaction. Since no one was around, or behind me at the time, I asked the cashier to pass this (the Little Things card and a small amount of cash) along to the next person who needed it. She was visibly touched. She asked questions about the campaign, and also about the shirt I was wearing. Being familiar with TWLOHA, she asked if I had a personal reason behind the shirt. I explained that yes, I have had personal struggles but, as well as have lost people to suicide. I also very briefly explained some of the volunteering work I have done with crisis intervention and people hurting in such a real way.

Not wanting to pry, but wanting her to know she was not alone, I simply asked her if she had a story as it related to this. She proceeded to tell me about her brother, who had committed suicide just three months prior, actually on her birthday. My heart broke with her. Partially because I’ve experienced losing people close to suicide, partially because I’ve struggled with some pretty real pain at times, and mostly because she was hurting. Her pain was very real. Her life had been forever changed by and with this loss.

I’m sure my talking with her may had an impact on her – but the impact it had on me cannot be summed up in words. Like I said, it broke my heart to hear her story, but was an honor to share hope and His love in a real life practical way. I was able to pray for her, and just be a friend how He led.

I encourage you to listen to that nudge, or that urge you might otherwise ignore. You may have no idea why, and feel the need to go somewhere you otherwise wouldn’t have at that time – but God can and will use something such as The Little Things campaign to spark conversation and open dialog to allow God to work on another persons heart – as well as your own. Just keep an open mind, and an open heart – and be willing to follow where He leads. You never know how much impact the little things really can have.

Dec3

The Little Things – Love In Action!!

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Today, I’d just like to highlight a few new and fun ways folks are reaching out within this community to make a difference through this Little Things campaign. My heart is forever grateful to and for a pastor who follows the heart of God with such passion, but who encourages the entire church – from young to old – to do it as well. As long as we are breathing, we should be loving God, loving people and making a difference!

Today my husband and I ate at a new restaurant. The individual who helped us asked if we’d dined there, and we let them know that we hadn’t. His service was amazing, and his attention to details was phenomenal. We gave him an initial tip when we ordered and paid for our food – and then at the end of our meal as well. (It’s a place where you pay for the food, then sit down and eat it.) As such, I just took the time to let him know afterwards that we truly appreciated his service, and that he evidently knew and did his job very well. When I gave him the extra tip and explained this Little Things campaign, he just kept on smiling and saying thank you. It was priceless. The owner of this place was watching what was going on and was concerned we’d gone and spoken to him with a complaint. I, then, explained it to her and how amazing the service was, etc. What I learned was that he was not normally “out front” but always in the back and had been given a chance out there today. I’m praying for him, that this entire experience will have lasting effects…and that God is able to work on his heart, and the hearts of his co-workers.

This Little Things giver shared some purchased sweet treats with a random stranger outside Wal-Mart.

Just a little thing, made one guy outside walmart so happy. All that he could say was Thank you God Bless and Merry Christmas as he was blowing us a kiss saying Thank you. Brought tears.

A few more ideas on thinking outside the box with this Little Things campaign.

Truly it is better to give than recieve. Here are just a few ideas if you are thinking about what to do with those little red cards!
* Take treats to a nursing home. Give the staff gift cards for lunch.

*Take some rolls of quarters to a laundry mat to help with the cost of washing clothes.

* Take goodies to a school, business, or firehouse.

* Pass out gift cards when you are out shopping.

* Give an unexpected surprise to someone you have been witnessing to.
These cards can make a difference in someone’s life. Maybe even for eternity!

I’m so proud to be a part of a church with such loving people. The youth have such a heart for God and for people as well. Truly inspiring.

Jaime had just put our “Little Things” card in with our receipt at Applebees when the waitress came over gushing about how the nice kids at the table nearby (Skyline Youth) had left her a note, card, and a very nice tip. She asked if we knew them, and if we did, to tell them thank you very much. We then saw her showing her coworkers the card and telling them all about it. Such a big smile on her face! Great job teens!

This just makes me smile. It’s all about interacting and connecting with people on a personal level. This couple showed love and generosity to some random strangers who I’m sure were blown away and blessed by this. (I know I would be speechless if I were in that situation!)

We were shopping at Target and were at the checkout stand – the cashier almost finished ringing up our purchases – when a young couple plunked down some gift and household items behind ours. I (Tom) asked the man if he would be alright with me paying for his items, and laughingly he said “sure”, but I don’t think he took me seriously. I directed the cashier to add his purchase to mine. Then the man addressed me. “Are you serious?” he asked. I said “Yes, and this isn’t Undercover Boss or anything like that. I’m a member of Skyline Church and I’m just wanting to be generous.” I handed him the “little things” card and added “you can likewise do a random act of kindness for someone else”. The couple was genuinely grateful. I saw a Barbie doll amongst his purchases, and I confessed to the man that I played with my sister’s Barbie when I was about 6 or 7, until I was gifted a more manly toy like GI Joe. He laughed, shook my hand, and said “thanks” about 3 or 4 times. This didn’t break our bank, and was a simple demonstration of kindness for this appreciative couple.

I LOVE this idea. LOVE it! I’m going to have to do something like this. Something so simple, yet will make such an impact – both on the cashier as well as those who receive the blessing. Great idea!

I am not a member of Skyline, I have never attended. However I am friends with Lance on Facebook, and had the pleasure of spending a week at camp with him this summer. This morning, after work on my way home, I drove through a local gas station’s drive thru. I bought my daily soda, which is only a dollar. Handed the Lady working a 10 and told her that I wanted to buy the next 9 sodas that she sold. Not much, but her face was priceless!

It doesn’t always have to be monetary to make a difference. I know that sometimes a simple smile or kind gesture can make a world of difference – and change the entire mood of a day.

Today I saw a small elderly lady struggling to free a shopping cart at Walgreens. I went over and freed the cart for her and wished her a blessed day. Just a little thing

This makes me smile. Sharing love in the form of support and encouragement can go such a long way in ensuring that no one feels alone in this world. Such a kind gesture may bring that temporary peace in the midst of chaos that’s really, and truly needed.

I had a little instant message from a friend at work that I gave a bag of cookies too with a card. She has had a terribly tough year with her husband deployed and some serious family issues. I’ve tried to make a point of checking in on her as she sits in a secluded area at work. She thanked me for supporting her the last 6 months and especially now as she prepares for her husbands return. She said she is stressing out getting ready for the holidays with her family here and trying to get ready for her husband’s return. Brought a tear to my eye.

Sometimes it’s the little things. That’s what this is all about. Sharing love in something small may just have made an impact on her day. We have no idea what was going on in the grouchy cashiers day or life, but what a blessing to just reach out in love and caring enough to not walk away angry after watching someone seemingly angry at the world.

I was at a store when a grouchy lady was ringing up our purchase. I put a card and a quarter on top of a pack of gum near the register. I sure hope she finds it and it makes her day.

This one brought tears to my eyes. Maybe it’s because I’ve had kids, and know what a blessing this is — but I could just envision someone walking upon this and being blessed beyond words. I’m praying that whomever saw it will know how much God loves them through the anonymous act of sharing love in such a practical way.

Free diapers?! Hope this blesses a frazzled mom/ dad tonight!

This “Little Things” campaign has transformed my way of thinking in so many ways. Instead of dwelling as much on things that affect me, health concerns, etc – I find that I am actively thinking on and pondering how I can make a difference next. Seriously, reaching out and being a blessing to another person brings me so much joy and healing.

Nov30

Adventures With The Little Things – The Little Red Cards

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Skyline church has set out on a mission, a campaign if you will, to make a difference – to share smiles and pay it forward – within this community and beyond. As the card reads,

Thank you for allowing me to serve you today. May God bless your life in such a way that you will be compelled to share your blessing with others through The Little Things”. We believe that when a gift is given, whether big or small, it can make a world of difference. Your challenge is to make even a small difference in someone else and spread the love as we enjoy the small blessings of life.

Yesterday, I wanted to put this idea into action. I started working on exactly this, and the result was mind-blowing. At least to me. Here is what I had to say about it yesterday:

The Little Things…I cannot say enough about this. What an incredible experience. I’m honestly not sure if the recipient of these or if the giver walks away from the experience more excited.

I know I have been having a really rough time lately, and the last day or two have just been heartbreaking in different ways. So, as a way to focus on something else – and because I wanted to make a difference, I remembered our little campaign. I decided to be a part of this. I didn’t do anything spectacular, I simply paid for the person behind me in line’s drink at Starbucks. As I drove away, the amount of joy it brought in that moment was unbelievable. I know the $4 and change that I gave did not change the world, but it certainly impacted mine by just reaching out.

It sometimes really is the little things that have the potential to make the biggest difference. Take time today to figure out a way to become involved with this. You may just find yourself touched in ways you wouldn’t have imagined.

Today, I was having some trouble keeping my mind focused on Him. So, what did I do? I pulled out another card, and went on a mission. Sharing this joy with others is REALLY impacting me and bringing such strength.

Another guest story shared today on Skyline’s website:

Today I embraced the spirit of this season and with these little red cards (The Little Things) in hand, I went out, set on making a difference. As I explored, I saw a new business, right in the heart of O’Fallon. A cupcake and coffee shop. Who doesn’t need that? So, after I purchased my own goodies, I left enough cash to buy the next person some sweet treats. I have no idea what the reaction was or will be from the recipient of this little gift, but the shop owner and workers were touched. Their reactions alone made it all worth it. They mentioned how “it is just so nice…a sweet thing to do.” We had the opportunity to talk about God, and also about Skyline. “I have never seen such love from a church.” That is a comment I will take with me and keep in the back of my mind. What an experience. Thank you Skyline Church for this opportunity to make even a small impact in the lives of people around us.

Skyline’s pastor is a person of integrity. He doesn’t just ask the congregation to do something, while sitting back idle – waiting to see results. Instead, he gets right out there with the rest of us, feet on the ground – going about sharing and spreading love in this community and beyond. His heart is with and for people. This is what he had to say about his initial experiences with this: (you can also find a link to Pastor Lance’s personal blog in his response. I urge you to check it out.)

Today I took a little road trip full of Little Things. It began as Pastor Chris and I went to every school in O’Fallon to bless the office staff with a dozen doughnuts at each school. I just loved seeing the smiles on their faces as we said, “We just want to say thanks for the difference you make in our schools.”

Our Journey didn’t end there, however, as we continued our mission to bless the people of O’Fallon with of all things…..QUARTERS. A little change in the coin return of a vending machine (who doesn’t like finding some change), $.75 taped with a card at a gas station air pump (why do we have to pay for air?), $1.50 left behind at a car wash, some quarters strategically placed in the shopping carts at Aldi’s, and my favorite….quarters left in the bubble gum machines at Wal-Mart.

We did reap a harvest of smiles and “thank you’s” in the schools, but our other “Little Things” were done anonymously. I can only imagine what might go through those people’s minds…especially the kids at the bubble gum machine. The image of their smiles make all the difference in the world for me.

I have a few more ideas on my blog page….maybe you should check it out in the post “The Little Things Make A Big Difference”. http://themusingloft.blogspot.com/

The entire scope and purpose of this post is to encourage you to dig deeper. Join in on this. If your church doesn’t have a “Little Things” sort of campaign – create one! You really have no idea how something small can be life changing. But, what has become more important than anything else in this equation is that it’s often the giver that is touched and moved more than the receiver. Give it a try. I’d LOVE to see your stories. Please don’t hesitate to share how this (or something like it) makes a difference in your life or community. As always, you can feel free to use the “Contact Me” page OR posting directly in comments. Keep this going!

Nov28

When Disappointment Leads to Trust

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There are times in our lives where disappointment will happen. Often, things outside of our control, will leave us shaking our heads, and wondering where God is in the equation. If we truly believe the Bible, then we have to know that God is the same yesterday, today and forever. He changes not. So, looking through those lenses – if you ever knew God was real, know that He STILL is. If you ever realized that He is God, and He is in control – He still is! He loves you – He always has and He always will!

I’ve come to the conclusion that there are these times, and like it or not – there isn’t much we can do about it. However, it’s how we react in during these situations that build either strong character, or a weakened character.

As I have mentioned recently, I am facing some unsure health concerns. One week ago, I was supposed to have a consult with the breast surgeon to see what we’re looking at, and how he sees fit to handle it. We then were scheduled at a different location, with a different doctor. That appointment was to be this morning. As it turned out, there was a scheduling error and the appointment needed to be rescheduled. Again. When I was told the appointment would now be delayed an additional two weeks, I cried. To be perfectly honest, I’m just ready for this to be over. Good or bad, I KNOW that God is in control. I can honestly say that I do not fear the results. I’ve just been tired of feeling like I feel, and not having answers.

As I sit here and ponder, I realize that there are good things that can come from even the waiting. God is somehow working in my heart on the topic of patience. As I was sharing my disappointment with a friend, it was aptly pointed out that in the delay, there will be more time to pray. That, right there, showed me a different perspective.

I have found myself in the middle of some intense emotions – both good and bad. The unfortunate part has been that my emotions have been pretty much all over the place. There are times I feel like I can’t do this anymore. When I feel that way, God reminds me that I can – often through the love and support of people He’s strategically placed in my life! So, for what it’s worth – please know I’m grateful for those of you who have taken the time to just be there — to be a friend, to pray, and to just encourage. To those of you who have walked a mile in these shoes, I’m sorry. For all who have just been a friend, listened, and simply cared – you have my gratitude.

Though I have been really disappointed with all the hurrying up to wait, I am learning the concept of trusting God in a whole new way. He is my Father. He is my Friend. He is my Strength. He is my Joy. He is my Healer. See a pattern here? I’m really learning, and putting into practice these things — He is my everything.

Nov25

God Or Coincidence, Part 2

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Very recently, I made a post about God and coincidence – as it related to praying for my car, and watching it come back to life! This morning at church, something happened that allowed me to ask the same question: God or coincidence?

As I was preparing to video our church service, my camera decided it wanted to test my faith! (Before you decide it’s time to cart me off to the loony bin, I know it is an inanimate object not really plotting against me!) This said, I set my tripod up, and attached my camera. Just as I do ever other week. This time, however, things did not go as planned. My camera jumped right off my tripod, landing not so skillfully on the concrete floor! Looking it over, I determined it wasn’t irreparably damaged! However, upon turning it on, all it showed was a bright screen full of fine static. It would not record, and showed no images or videos saved. Okay, so this is not good. The service was to start in less than a half an hour, and I had this non-working camera. Not great.

It was right then and there that I decided to pray. If nothing else, I knew prayer would do no harm. I did, however, have faith that God could and would work this out. So, I turned my camera back on – nothing. I then felt as if I heard Him say to focus on the light. Somehow, I knew to find the brightest light source around. So, I did that. Again, nothing. I kept feeling like that was the answer…so, once again, I aimed it at the light, and proceeded to try and focus. As I did that, the thing started working. All files that were there previously (but were showing gone) were there. All functionality had been restored to my camera. With minutes to spare before starting to record, my camera was fully operational – as if nothing had ever happened. God or coincidence? I’m going to go with God on this one as well. It just instilled in me that He cares about all things.

I am also going to take it one step further. I looked at this as a practical example of a spiritual principle. Think about the following example. Say you fall down. It’s easy to feel broken, and even moreso – easy for things to not feel or work right. What was once there, cannot be found. You may feel broken, scared or like life will never work again – like nothing will be the same. However, my encouragement to you is this: If you will keep your eyes focused on Him, and – no matter what the circumstances seem like – keep adjusting and re-focusing on Him, things will eventually fall into place again. Broken pieces will be restored. Peace will be found, and life will be alright. With God as your focus, everything else seems to fall into place.

Look to Him and just know that He is in control. No matter what “this” is, KNOW that He’s got this!

Nov24

Praying For Your Pastor

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You will often hear me talk about praying for the people God has in leadership positions – and in this case, pastors everywhere. The following are some personal guidelines that I keep in mind when praying for the leadership at my church. Where there are any names, you can substitute your own. This is by no means a complete list. For me, sometimes it helps to have a focus to my prayers.

First, let’s pray for God’s heart for Pastors Lance, Scott and Chris – and their families. Remember to not speak critical of them, but serve them with love through the ministry of prayer. Pray for them continuously throughout the day.
Here are a few areas to keep in mind when praying:

1. FAMILY – Proverbs 3:33
Pray for their marriage and families to be blessed.

2. STRENGTH – Isaiah 40:30-31
For the joy of the Lord, Rest, Strength – Physical, Spiritual, Emotional and Mental

3. PROTECTION – Psalm 91:1-16
Pray for a Shield of Protection from spiritual attacks, from criticism, and pray for their physical health.

4. PRAYER LIFE – Acts 6:4
Pray for a strong prayer life, and personal relationship and intercession for others.

5. DIRECTION – John 10:27
Pray they will be guided by God, and hear and obey His voice.

6. VICTORY OVER TEMPTATION – Matthew 6:13
Pray that they would not be led into temptation, and that they would resist the enemy.

7. ANOINTING – Luke 4:18
Pray for their teaching, preaching, and leading Skyline in worship – pray also for the presence of God.

8. PEACE – Philippians 4:7
Pray for the peace of God to rule their hearts.

9. FAVOR – Luke 2:52
Pray for favor with both God and man – with many open doors to share Jesus.

10. CHURCH – Ephesians 4:13-15
Pray for a continuously supportive and loving church family, that they mature and grow in Christ, and they continue to have a passionate vision to reach the lost.

11. PROVISION – Matthew 6:11
Pray for continued provision for the church vision, along with provision for their home and family.

Nov23

God’s Answer To Prayer – Or Sheer Coincidence?

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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you prayed and believed God for something – and your prayers were answered? If you answered yes to this question, did you just KNOW it was an answer to prayer, all the while having well meaning friends or family stress that it was just a coincidence? While people will believe what they want with reference to coincidences, I’m inclined to believe in a God larger than life – who listens to the prayers of His people – and cares even about the small details of our lives.

Holding true to my character, I have a story to tell.

My black Friday was anything but normal. Today, I did not go out shopping. I have long since decided that my sanity is worth more than that! I did, however, have to leave the house. I was on my way to pick up the kids. (They were visiting family.) As I was driving, my car started acting strange. It was as if the accelerator was malfunctioning. I would push the gas pedal, and my car wouldn’t respond. The engine would rev up, but not accelerate. It’d slowly pick up speed, but it’s like the timing was off. Then, if I let my foot off the gas, it would do nothing for 2-3 seconds – then would go about slowing down. It made driving interesting, but not seemingly unsafe. I did a system check, and all systems were a go. No errors or problems detected. This was until I got about 5 minutes away from their house. I wasn’t sure what to make of it (other than my car was not cooperating) – the little wrench symbol lit up. Great, a car issue. Then, the words “CHECK TRANSMISSION” came up and glared at me. Because it was dark, and freezing outside, I opted to keep on driving.

As the drive ended, and I reached my destination, I went on with life as normal. This was until I tried to leave. I packed up the kids, and started my car. As I put the car in reverse, pressed the gas pedal, and attempted to back up, my car (parked on a hill) only wanted to move forward. I turned the car off, and back on. The error lights and transmission wording kept coming back. Lovely, I was now stranded across state lines. Not how I enjoy spending my day. We waited a while, and tried again. And again. To no avail.

It was apparent that my car was not going to cooperate on it’s own. So, we called our roadside assistance folks, and got a tow truck to come on it’s merry way. Just to make sure, we tried starting it and attempting to back up. Again, didn’t work.

In the interim, I called a couple of people to ask for a variety of advice – if people knew good mechanics in the area, if they knew where to take the car OR where to avoid taking it. Since I was unfamiliar with the city I was in, I had no idea where to turn – or who to trust. I had one phone call, however, that changed the course of history. Well, history as I knew it this evening. The tow truck was on it’s way, and I’d already asked the driver if he could tow it the rest of the way (not covered by the roadside assistance) and we’d pay the difference. Unfortunately, he couldn’t. He could not take it over state lines. He was not covered for interstate commerce. Now, this seemingly left us with just one possibility. We’d have the car towed to a local dealership, worked on and have to drive back over to get it afterwards. So, back to this history changing phone call…

As we were talking, I explained my strong desire to have my car closer to my house for repairs. I just really wanted a tow truck driver who could transport across state lines. That’d make life easier all the way around. So, I was told a story about the faith of a group of people trying to catch a flight. They were on standby, three tries, and three failures. They HAD to make their destination, and so they HAD to be on this flight. They prayed and KNEW God would go before them to prepare a way. They had the faith that, even though the airline told them there was NO WAY that they were getting on that flight, they were. Long story short, through a series of events, they got on that particular flight. God took care of them, and they made it to their destination without further delay. All I mention that story to say is that (as I was talking on the phone) I realized that God can work out situations on our behalf. Situations that seem like they have no other hope…no way out…He is able. So, right there on the phone, we prayed and asked God to help me get my car towed to a place close to home. However that needed to happen, we had faith that He would do it.

So, as I got off the phone, it was time to wait on the tow truck. As I waited, however, I had another idea. I took those moments to just sit in His presence, and listen — to be quiet before Him. I felt such peace, and such gratitude for all He’s done in my life, and all He is going to do. As I sit, I began to talk to God. I told him my desires…and that I loved Him and would trust Him regardless of the outcome. Then, as my faith grew and was strengthened right there in that moment, I was bold with my faith. I expressed the desire to be able to drive my car home myself – for my car to be fixed, as if miraculously. At first, I laughed at myself – thinking how crazy it must sound to God. But, really – who is God, that we limit Him? He’s able. I kept hearing the words – My child, I am able. So, I didn’t know what would happen, or how it would get fixed, but tried starting and making it move again. Nothing. Still, my faith remained. I wasn’t sure how God was going to work in this situation.

The tow truck driver arrived, and asked what the problem was – and what all was going on. I explained the course of the day, and what it was doing – or rather NOT doing – and filled out the necessary paperwork. As I finished telling him of my car woes, I completed the story by telling him that my car was going to respond differently this time. It would start and run, and accelerate like normal. No problem. (He was concerned, figuring out how he was going to get it out of the driveway, seeing as how I was parked on a hill (away from the road behind), that he would never get it out. So, I told him not to worry it would reverse and be fine, and that God was going to take care of me either way. I’m pretty sure he thought I was looney. I didn’t care. What followed next was nothing short of God.

He sat in the car to see what it felt like, and – lo and behold – it started fine, and as the accelerator was pushed, the engine reacted just as it should. I then checked for the error messages, and there were none. He backed the car out of the driveway and drove it to where the tow truck was parked and waiting. As a precaution, we were still going to send it on it’s merry way, and get it checked out. Then I had a gut check almost. I sat there and realized God had answered my prayer, and my car was healed. I joke, but I believe it to be true as well. Against the advice of my inlaws and the tow truck driver, I told him that I was going to drive it home. He tried to convince me that it would just react the same way again when the engine warmed up all the way. Everyone indicated the whole “best to be safe than sorry” routine. I, however, felt strongly urged to act and react in faith. So, I stood my ground, and sent him away. I got the kids packed up and, after a little while, went to start the car again. All was well.

As I drove home, I thanked God for His faithfulness. My car ran smoothly, and like nothing had ever gone wrong. It accelerated fine, and drove like it did before these issues. You may call it a coincidence. I call it God in action. Either way, I am grateful to God for keeping my family safe, and for getting us home safe, sound and in a car that works!

Nov22

Happy Thanksgiving – Being Thankful — It’s All In Perspective

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“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” Abraham Lincoln

This quote from Abraham Lincoln is very powerful – and it’s absolutely true. How you respond to your situation is a choice. It is your choice to make. There are so many times in life that it may be all you can do to simply get out of bed in the morning, let alone accomplish a miracle of actually finding something to be thankful for. Today is a very special day for some, and a heartbreaking day for others. People have the choice today – give thanks, or accept depression (or insert whatever “condition” a person might find themselves in instead of being thankful). Sometimes it’s easier said than done, and I get that. Ask me how I know!?

Those of you who know me personally, know much (if not all) of what I am about to say. However, for those of you who don’t, I’d like to share a little bit about the things in life I am thankful for, but the emotions and situations that played a part in the not so happy or thankful times. I have so, so very much to be thankful for – though I’ll admit, I haven’t always seen it that way.

I will use one very personal, but fitting example of this principle in action. On Thanksgiving day, five years ago, our family experienced a loss that I often find hard to put into words. On this day reserved for giving thanks, we were not doing as much of that as I’d have liked. You see, we lost a baby that day. To be honest, I had no idea if I would ever be able to be thankful again. For the record, that didn’t last long – as I gazed into the eyes of my precious two children. We had suffered a heartbreaking loss, however, we had also been blessed with such a loving and amazing family.

This experience was full of many moments where it was all about perspective. The loss of a baby is not anything I would wish on anyone. Not ever. For me, however, it gave me much time to reflect. There was nothing in this world that would bring her back, and no way possible to change this. I came to know that, while my life was forever changed by this, it would also not be the end of the world. I knew the potential was there for God’s plan. I wasn’t fond of God’s plan at that moment. I wasn’t ever really angry at God. Disappointed? Absolutely. But, I didn’t blame God. We’ll never know why this happened, or why He allowed it — but I’m pretty sure it was part of such a sweet plan He had for our family.

Much to our surprise, we found out we were pregnant with our (now four year old) baby girl. It was a shocking, but absolutely welcome surprise. She was born exactly one year, minus a day, after our loss. Thanksgiving one year was filled with heartbreak, and the following year with a newborn.

As I sit here today, five years later, I realize many things. I am blessed more than I can figure words to say. No, I’m not (and I’d imagine never will be) thankful that we lost our baby. However, I AM thankful that our precious daughter is here today. She wouldn’t be if we had not experienced what we did. God’s timing is perfect.

It’s all in perspective. I could have chosen to live a life full of grief, thus affecting every area of my life OR I could choose to see His hand in things beyond my control – realizing, that He is, and forever will be in control. He is the God of yesterday, today and forever. He’s got the whole world in His capable hands – even mine – even yours. Yes, there are times we remember, and have emotions connected with that. We don’t, however, have to live in that depressed moment.

Here is my challenge to you — take time today to give thanks for the things you are thankful for. Beyond that, though, I’d like to ask you to take it one step further. I want you to reflect on the things that you aren’t so happy about. Don’t dwell, but think about those things that you aren’t thankful for in any way, shape or form. Take that, and find something (anything) positive that has come from it. I know there are certain situations where you may feel as if nothing good could come from such a bad situation. However, think about it – come up with that one thing that has been positive as a result….and then, give thanks for that. (I’d love to know how this goes for you. Feel free to post in comments or “contact me” through this page. Looking forward to your stories!)

Someone recently asked what tops the list of things I am thankful for this holiday season. My response was short and sweet, but heartfelt in every way. My answer was simply, “The typical “my God and my family” response came to mind and holds that top spot on the list. However, also very much on my mind, is the ability to have gone (or go) through pain and emerging on the other side with the ability to share strength and hope with others as a result…that, and grateful for the friends and family I look to in similar situations.” That’s what it’s all about — finding strength and a reason to be thankful, even when there seems to be nothing worthy of giving thanks for! Have a blessed day guys, and Happy Thanksgiving!